Are you like 1 of Approximately 40 million American adults ages 18 and older, or about 18.1 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have an anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorders frequently co-occur with depressive disorders or substance abuse.
are you looking for ways to combat this issue that seems to consume your life.
are you like me going to doctor after doctor to no avail meds they give don't work.
then u have came to the right place i am going to give u natural ways to resolve anxiety issues.
i will also list and explain about certain medications that can help you rid this as well.
first before i get into all that i am going to give u a glimpse of how my life is right now.
I have been suffering from anxiety and panic attacks for years now that are awful.
been to doctor after doctor with not to much help, they try give u antidepressants.
well for some of the people who take them seem to help them but not me and most of u.
I get panic attacks for now reason some times cant seem to shake them.
I can be playing video games or just watching a movie or hanging out in public.
I feel as if i cant go anywhere talk to people i feel i have to be secluded from all.
I stay in my room avoid going around people or even going out in the public.
I still have issues with all those but i am working towards fixing my life.
since i was a kid like age 11 i had a head injury i got hit with a golf club in the head.
since then i have had tons of emotional and physical symptoms that have gotten worse.
one of those has been my anxiety and panic attacks i still struggle with them and I'm on lyrica.
lyrica is not a med that is always prescribed for anxiety or panic attacks it is mostly for nerve pain.
it is also used for those with fibromyalgia that need relief from pain to enjoy their lives.
for me it has helped some but not enough but it has helped with me not having so many migraines.
so i am happy to take it so my head doesn't feel like its gonna blow up like someone is squashing it.
the lryica has definitely helped for my migraines and has relieved some of my anxiety.
on a daily basis i have to deal with panic attacks or extreme anxiety while im out in the public.
when I'm driving when i can people drive so crazy don't use turn signals cut you off its nerve racking.
if you have been there then you understand what I'm talking bout how hard it is to stay in control.
when you in those stressful situations it just seems like to much and we just lose it.
for me i can have bad panic attacks for no legit reason just intense fear feel like I'm dieing.
what do i do well i don't have klonopins or other benzodiazepines to stop them on the spot.
so for me since the docs are so reluctant on certain medications i have had to develop techniques.
i have noticed if i try to breathe and focus on my breathing as slower deeper breaths it helps.
how it helps is i don't focus to much on that intense fear and elevated heart rate.
but not all times does that work sometimes i have to walk around some to keep my mind busy.
it helps some as well but it does not fix the issue nor does it tell me why I'm am having them.
so i go on with my life struggling with the panic attacks and the anxiety of being around a lot of people. i do my best to interact with people as much as i can even though its hard. i stay in my home in my room mostly cause its less panic and anxiety there. i have a computer where i can be social with friends online that also tends to help me not freak out.
so i have read tons of sites that are about relieving anxiety or what meds to take and all that.
but for some simply hearing bout things to do or what meds to take you need more information.
i have read about this sites offering a system to help rid you of your anxiety and face your fears.
me myself there guide seems very promising. it doesn't try to make u awkwardly face your fears or say you gotta go to a therapist. i will link you to there site so u can read more about what they offer.
These are a few systems you can look at to aid in having and living a normal life.
Here is the first one, Social Confidence System ,where they explain diff ways to achieve victory over your anxiety.
you can choose to start there program which i must admit can work for most of us out there.
I have been doing all kinds of things to face my fears and to rid myself of anxiety.
there system has helped me to do that i don't get so freaked out now while going to the doctors.
I am lil more relaxed in my own home and room and can somewhat enjoy my days.
they have helped me out alot as well as the stuff i have did to help myself.
This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soulmate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.
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11 Major Points for Career Planning
- Begin With Your Values.
- Identify Your Skills and Talents.
- Identify Your Preferences.
- Experiment.
- Opt For Experiences First and Money Later.
- 100% Committed : Give 100% Commitment To Your Job.
- Build Your Life Style Around Your Income Not Your Expectations.
- Invest 10% Of Your Time, Energy, Money Into Furthering Into Your Career.
- Be Ready To Change And Adapt - Be Flexible.
- Decide On Companies And Process Before Hand.
- Always Update Yourself With Technology And Trends.
Being confident takes effort. It is a state of mind that fluctuates as we react to our circumstances, mood, physical health, and a whole host of unknown subconscious factors.
My life’s work is about understanding how to maintain this powerful mindset. Based on the theory that true ‘happiness’ is really about feeling self-confident, I have devised all sorts of ways to build and maintain high self-worth.
Here’s a few things to help you maintain yours.
UNDERSTAND THAT ‘victim’ is a mindset, nothing more, nothing less
As my coach Jacob Sokol says, you can either be a Victim or a Creator. The choice is always yours.
In working with offenders I quickly learned something fascinating: they do not choose victims at random. They are in fact attracted to victims. How can that be, when some people are victims for the first time?
Because being a Victim is not defined by having something bad happen to you. It’s about thinking of yourself as a victim. Here’s a fairly simple question that will determine whether you are a Victim or a Creator:
Do you believe life generally happens to you, or do you believe that you create your life?
Explore how you react to life. Do you see yourself surrounded by opportunities? Do you feel like you can handle whatever comes your way?
Or, do you see yourself as being the subject of luck and circumstance? Is it just a matter of ‘playing the hand you were dealt’?
Victims are powerless. If you want power, you need to stop being a victim. And nothing in your life will change that, you have to change it yourself.
Try living for a month by the motto “Everything that happens to me is for my benefit, and is my responsibility to manage” and see how you go.
Try to give rather than get
Most people try to get things out of life. This is the quickest way to push the things you want out of your reach. I wish someone had explained this to me when I was younger.
In order to “get”, you must give. And you must give fully, with no condition or expectation of reward. Try to think of life as deal in VALUE.
To receive value, you must first give it. Make giving value the goal of every interaction. When you are talking to someone, ask yourself “How I can give this person the opportunity to leave here better than when they came in?”
This does NOT mean people-please. When you people-please, you are not giving, you are trying to get. Get liked. Get friends. Get approval. Get a reputation as the Nice Guy.
Giving is about ensuring that the person receives what they want, not what you want. Ask before you give help. Ask permission to serve others. Expect nothing in return.
You will be rewarded. This reward will not be what you think you want, but it will be what you actually need. You’ll just have to trust me on this one.
Doing it all by yourself is pointless
As a perfectionist people pleaser (what a mouthful), I used to try and do it all myself. And because I was hardworking and clever it worked OK… sort of.
Little did I know, I was missing out on amazing things because of my pride and inability to be vulnerable. I had to struggle and fight for every little bit of success, for every inch of progress.
Then one day I was promoted to Service Manager and was put in charge of a team of people for the first time. I quickly settled into my old pattern of doing it all myself, as well as trying to do everyone else’s work for them as well.
Not surprisingly, I completely burned out.
I decided to let go and start allowing others to support me. This is when I was subjected to another epiphany: teams are greater than the sum of their individual parts. 10 people collaborating can achieve things that 30 people working on individually would struggle to achieve.
And I didn’t miss out on anything. In fact, the more recognition and delegation I gave to the team, the better I felt. They loved me more as a leader when I allowed them to be in charge of the good stuff, rather than hogging it all to myself.
When I later became a full time coach I reverted back to my old ways, mostly because I was working alone. Then, when Michael Wells approached me to start Brojo, I opened up to the idea of collaboration again. Thank God I did that!
I suck at technical stuff, design and organising venues. I’m an artist, I like to create and perform. Michael was 10x better at all that stuff than me, and without him this thing might never have started.
Let go of your pride and let other people help you. You’re denying them pleasure by keeping it all to yourself. You’ll end up getting more out of it than you ever expected, and certainly more than you can do alone.
Slow the hell down
Mindfulness is now one of the most central concepts in my life.
I have learned that true bliss comes from being present, curious and aware of what is happening in real-time. There is a time and place for mentally drifting, such as getting creative or planning, but for the most part confidence comes from the simple joy of being present.
We are all so damn BUSY. We thrive on busyness as a coping mechanism to avoid boredom. People are busy from the moment they wake, all the way through the work day, until the moment they sleep. They go a million miles per hour and without even being aware of what they are doing.
People even have busy holidays. I once went on a one-month vacation tour of the USA for a leisure holiday, and most of our group were just on the go, all day every day. It was exhausting to watch them from the comfort of the lazy, unplanned holiday the rest of us were having.
You can do more with less. Rather than doing a billion things a day, do what’s important and do it well. Figure out what actually matters to your goals. Most stuff doesn’t, but we keep ourselves busy with crap to avoid the uncomfortable stuff that does matter.
Try this: no chores for a week. No internet social media scrolling. No socialising with people you don’t adore. Spend a week only doing the important uncomfortable things, and SLOWLY participate in life rather than rushing around.
Soak it all in – you only ever get to do anything once. Enjoy it.
Vulnerability Is Invincible
For too many years I hid everything negative about myself. My anger, my dislikes, my disagreements, and mostly, my weaknesses.
It was like dragging around a massive concrete ball. Constantly having to be hypersensitive to what I was saying and revealing. I treated conversations like defusing a bomb; with the utmost care and concern.
As I started building my confidence, I experimented with disclosure. I started slowly but tentatively revealing the darker aspects of myself. This was one of the hardest things I have ever done.
The result shocked me.
None of the bad things I thought would happen actually came to fruition. Instead, I was met mostly with love, understanding and sympathy. People seemed to like me more when they learned about my weaknesses. They certainly appreciated the honesty and shamelessness.
When you are completely vulnerable, when there are no secrets left, you become invincible. No one can use your weaknesses against you, because it’s all out in the open. It’s like having someone trying to bluff you in poker when you can see their cards.
For some reason it really inspires others. You gain instant trust and affection from people when you open up. This does not mean complaining or unloading your trauma on them. It just means being honest when you don’t know what to do, when you doubt yourself, and when you have feelings of shame about your behaviour.
Just remember: everyone else has these problems too. If you can be bold enough to reveal it, you will help others find peace with their own darkness.
It’s really not difficult to move your life from unhappy to HAPPY. Most people often think about achieving Happiness but not always knowing the steps to take to get their. When happiness doesn’t arrive quick enough, most people end up losing their confidence in the real world and toss up their dreams in the “not possible-basket”. It is important to understand that being truly happy comes from within you and involves a commitment to yourself that you will put in effort every day and every goal that you desire will become easy to accomplish.
All you need is to concentrate on doing just 10% more than others around you and these, free of cost little actions will lead you to the right path.
7 Ways To Find Pure Happiness
Be Comfortable With Yourself!
The closer you get to YOU, the more confident you will feel in dealing with life situations. Otherwise, even a small issue will seem to be insurmountable.
Don’t expect any magic to happen and boost your self confidence. The key to confidence is to get over all the negative aspects of your life and love yourself with full devotion.
Even though the approach of adopting a “feel good factor” is easier said than done, it is definitely not impossible. Whether you are overcommitted, stressed, overworked, tired or insecure in life, it is important to maintain a positive outlook towards life without losing hope in yourself.
Working on yourself alone will dramatically help with your happy :)
Find and Follow Your Passions
We all have hidden desires and passion for certain things. Some realize them and take necessary actions to fulfill them, while others are not even aware of them and live their life according to what others expect of them.
Love yourself enough to go after what you want in life. This will prove to be a huge step towards a positive and happy lifestyle. Create a vision board or list of things that make you happy and go out there each day until you try something you fall in love with.
Trying new things and finding joy in them is is a beautiful journey to happiness.
Create Positive Environments Around You
Eliminate all the negative souls from your life as they will only bring you down.
Everyone has problems and down days, this is normal, however there are some people you meet who are negative about so many things and you find that even when there’s a solution to something, they find an excuse for that too. You don’t need them. It is important to have positive people for a feel good factor.
It is a proven fact that when you dress well, your self confidence boosts about 50 percent more than usual. Wear clothes that look good on you and that make you feel good.
It is also important to have a good perception about things in life, no matter how bad they are. Always know that nothing is permanent and all you can control is your reaction and perceprtion to something – so it may as well be a positive one.
A positive environment will boost your confidence in a positive manner and help you live a happier life.
Visualize your Transformation
Visualizing yourself at a position where you want to be, or at a place that gives you satisfaction is a great way to boost your confidence.
When you wake up in the morning you can practice a 5 minute visualization meditation which will set the tone for your day. Close your eyes and think of a time in your life where you were extremely happy – harness the feelings you had and bring them into your present day. Before you go to sleep, do not forget to visualize yourself reaching your goal and waking up happier than you are today.
Visualization is powerful and is something that is free and effective to all.
Stretch Your Comfort Zones
Stretching yourself out of your comfort zone means doing things that you thought were impossible for you to perform, achieve or attain.
Think about things that you’d like to achieve and what are the things holding you back from achieving them?
For instance: you have a business proposal at hand, but you aren’t ready to discuss it with anyone due to the fear of rejection.
Face it! Everyone who would have ever tried doing something out of box must have faced a lot of criticism, rejection and even embarrassment but if they didn’t push themselves outside their comfort zone, they wouldn’t be where they are today.
Everyday do at least one thing that makes you feel uncomfortable and don’t let the fear prevent you from achieving your goals.
Reward Yourself Regardless Of Current Life Situations
Remember the smile you used to get seeing two stars in your dictation test, or may be the chocolates and pencil boxes that you used to get in school for answering a really difficult question or my personal favourite; a scratch and sniff sticker ;)
These were rewards to encourage and support you to keep going.A way of your teachers letting you know that there is always a reward for a job well done.
But, no-one never said that rewards should not only given by others. You are independent now and have all the authority to reward yourself for all the good things you do!
Using reward system is a great way to get a break from your monotonous life. Once you’ll get into the habit of rewarding yourself for the good things you do, your confidence in yourself will improve, leading you to bigger achievements.
Don’t deprive yourself from the happiness that you have earned for yourself.
Take the Opportunities
The longer you will keep yourself involved in the process of becoming the best and happiest version of you, the easier it will be to see opportunities that float past you on regular basis.
You have to believe that opportunities can show up anytime in your face, and you need to be prepared every time to see them.
Whenever any new opportunity arrives, don’t waste your time thinking about impossibilities; but grab a strong hold of them and make them part of your journey
What you look for, you see!